Tuesday, January 24, 2012

all or nothing

"A lot of people have the notion that all contests must be zero-sum games; if one wins, the other must lose.  A satisfactory romance is the very opposite of a zero-sum game; unless both win, both lose.  I sometimes wonder if the root of the more vociferous discomfort and negative response to romance by these readers is in the mistaken notion that if the woman has won, the man must have lost."